Ashu ( now 14 year old) was just 18 months old when we decided to move to US . She was a very shy child , the moment she will see someone coming closer to her she would come running to us and hide behind us and people would invariably say ” oh! your daughter is too shy ” . I was more angered by the comments than my daughters shyness.
Got hold of a book What To Say When You Talk To Yourself by Shad Helmstetter and then starts my fascination for self talk.
The first self talk that we wrote for our daughter –
I am very bold and i can say hello
I am very beautiful , i have lovely hair and skin
I can do magic with words and i love numbers .
I love me and respect others .
She was just two and she would repeat after us before she went to bed . Yes, people have teased us and told that it is brain washing and then i would say if people around us can do the negative brain washing then definitely a positive one can minimize the damage .
Self talk !!!
Self Talk is the way your mind speaks to you in all situations, from daily routines to difficult life events. It is the voice that can either encourage you or chastise you. The good news is by listening to your inner dialog and shifting it to become more in line with what you really want, you can transform your life.
Now i help people to write their own self talk , image makeover that starts from “inside “.
As for Ashu , she has grown up to be a amazing confident young lady, a rebel ( at 14 ) but a pretty confident one 🙂