Posts Tagged With: positive

SUNSHINE

Once in a while, one gets to make acquaintance with a person with a beautiful personality. These kind of days are worth all the other days, that may not have been as good. Today was one of those days. The woman I met today inspired me, helped me see everything around me slightly differently and THAT, has made all the difference, I think.

I have always thought that, as an image consultant, I am the one on the ‘helping side’. For these rare, above mentioned ‘once in a whiles’ though, my position seems undecided, as this woman helped me, just about as much as I could ever have helped her.

She began with her story, telling it like it was no more than a mere tale, a story in a book, but it was all real, and she was extremely open about her experiences. That was the first thing intriguing about her, she trusted me with her story, me, a stranger to her, and there was something really touching in that one tiny gesture. She told me her story from the beginning, her birth into a typical Indian family, a family with strong beliefs that girl children were burdens. She was the first of three girls, and was to be married off as soon as possible.

She took charge, and for the sake of her two little sisters, fought against both, her parents, and her community, for her right to education. She completed her education, and went for engineering. A girl fighting was unheard of, as it is, but she went one step further and pursued her dream.

This kind of story, I have often observed, is usually accompanied with the kind of voice that one associates with complaints or regrets. I was surprised to detect absolutely none of the two in her voice as she told me her life story. There was an air of positivity to her, and it was almost as though you could absorb it, simply by standing there, or talking to her.

She came to me today, simply after reading my website, and endearingly revealed all she could about herself to me immediately. By the time she’d finished her story, she had also requested to start a session with me. The aftermath did not matter. Today was today, and she’d brave tomorrow as it came. I was still stunned by her attitude, and attitude so rare, a gem of true sorts.

Attitude is so important, and the trust she placed in me was huge. Those two things about this one woman made my day. She has taught me a lot more than she will ever know – about life, and attitudes, and mostly about holding my head high, even when circumstances say differently. I cannot encourage others to be who she is, when I have not gotten there myself, but I was inspired by her, I feel those who haven’t, or may never get to meet her, should also be just as privileged to simply ‘know’ about her, as I am.

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Is it too fit or am I fat!!

Most of the time when I am talking about the fit of an outfit the image people get in their mind is someone who is fat. It is more than just extra kilos on a person, it is true for a petite and also for  a large individual. The clothes what we wear influence the way we think, we feel about ourselves, the way we act and the way others responds to us. If you are wearing something that doesn’t fit you properly you are think about your appearance all the time, you feel physically and mentally uncomfortable and hence affects the way you act.

Wearing something that doesn’t fit bring in the negative focus, yours as well as that of others. If our clothes are too tight, then no matter what size we are we still will feel fat. The clothing which is of smaller size makes you look larger, if it feels tight it looks tight, making you look stuffed in.  Instead slip into something which is of proper fit and there is enough room for movement, we can carry on things that are of more importance.

Clothing that is too large also shouts dissatisfaction with your body. A fabulous fit makes you a person who looks fit with a good taste, judgment and also who gives attention to details.

Baja on the rack

Most of the time when I am restyling a wardrobe it is sad when you see the client’s clothing size has gone up by one or two but they don’t want to invest on new clothing to fit their current size until they lose those extra kilos.  It is a down ward cycle as it leaves them depressed and dissatisfied with life and themselves. It takes a lot of positive determination to live in the body that you are ‘today’. Don’t wait on your weight to look and feel fabulous.

Love

Babita  Jaishankar

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Erase and reprogram – The power of self talk !

 

Ashu ( now 14 year old)  was just 18 months old when we decided to move to US . She was a very shy child , the moment she will see someone coming closer to her she would come running to us and hide behind us and people would invariably say ” oh! your daughter is too shy ” . I was more angered by the comments than my daughters shyness.

Got hold of a book What To Say When You Talk To Yourself  by Shad Helmstetter and then starts my fascination for self talk.

The first self talk that we wrote for our daughter –

I am very bold  and i can say hello

I am very beautiful , i have lovely hair and skin

I can do magic with words and i love numbers .

I love me and respect others .

She was   just two and she would repeat after us before she went to bed . Yes, people have teased us and told that it is brain washing  and then i would say if people around us can do the negative brain washing  then definitely a positive one can minimize the damage .

Self talk !!!
Self Talk is the way your mind speaks to you in all situations, from daily routines to difficult life events. It is the voice that can either encourage you or chastise you. The good news is by listening to your inner dialog and shifting it to become more in line with what you really want, you can transform your life.

Now i help people to write their own self talk , image makeover that starts from “inside “.

As for Ashu , she has grown up to be a amazing confident young lady, a rebel ( at 14 )  but a pretty confident one 🙂

Love

Babita Jaishankar

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