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Boldly bald

BOLDLY BALD

It was a very quick decision when I was asked if would like to donate my hair. I was told that I could cut it really short, but since I was donating to a cause that I strongly believed in, I decided I’d go all the way. Being bald wasn’t an easy thing to imagine for myself, considering how important hair is to physical appearance. Considering that my entire corporate life is centered on appearance, I’m surprised at how quickly I made up my mind to do what I did.

Once my mind was made up, I began to really look forward to it. I suppose a large part of my exhilaration was because I’d been working with cancer survivors, and I’d finally be able to relate to them in one aspect of their struggle. To me it seemed the best way to feel what they felt while going through their treatment and suffering from hair loss. The loss of hair tends to affect people at an emotional level, causing their self image to deteriorate. I wanted to show them that not having hair doesn’t mean that they’re not beautiful anymore. It just means that they’ll have to hold their heads a bit higher.

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I’ll admit that I had my own selfish reasons as well, though. I wanted to work on my own self esteem as well. I knew that I was a little vain when it came to my hair. I didn’t want my confidence to be based on what other people thought of me, or on one single fraction of what made me, me. I wanted to be comfortable enough in my own skin to make my very public, daily commute, be able to post pictures on my social media and feel beautiful even without hair. Someone asked me what donating my hair would do for cancer. The truth is, maybe it might not do anything for cancer. But I know that it’ll do something for me, and I can only inspire people to feel beautiful after they’ve lost their hair if I can do it myself.

Love

Babita Jaishankar

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Erase and reprogram – The power of self talk !

 

Ashu ( now 14 year old)  was just 18 months old when we decided to move to US . She was a very shy child , the moment she will see someone coming closer to her she would come running to us and hide behind us and people would invariably say ” oh! your daughter is too shy ” . I was more angered by the comments than my daughters shyness.

Got hold of a book What To Say When You Talk To Yourself  by Shad Helmstetter and then starts my fascination for self talk.

The first self talk that we wrote for our daughter –

I am very bold  and i can say hello

I am very beautiful , i have lovely hair and skin

I can do magic with words and i love numbers .

I love me and respect others .

She was   just two and she would repeat after us before she went to bed . Yes, people have teased us and told that it is brain washing  and then i would say if people around us can do the negative brain washing  then definitely a positive one can minimize the damage .

Self talk !!!
Self Talk is the way your mind speaks to you in all situations, from daily routines to difficult life events. It is the voice that can either encourage you or chastise you. The good news is by listening to your inner dialog and shifting it to become more in line with what you really want, you can transform your life.

Now i help people to write their own self talk , image makeover that starts from “inside “.

As for Ashu , she has grown up to be a amazing confident young lady, a rebel ( at 14 )  but a pretty confident one 🙂

Love

Babita Jaishankar

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Style me !!!! Empower me !!!!

It all started when she came to office,  with a fragile body and a strong mind there she was  asking me to do a image makeover for her .  She said she dosen’t know if she can afford my services  but she surely needs it . Now i was curious in knowing whY she wants a  image makeover, to most of the people it is something that would make them glamorous and i had no doubt in my mind that she was going to ask to suggest her something that would make her fair . NO, she said she is absolutely very proud of her skin tone – hmmmm now it is getting more interesting , i am thinking then why is she here. So this is what she told me that encouraged me to start SMEM initiative .

She grew up in a joint family, dad passed away when she was just a kid and mom works as a domestic help in half dozen houses.  But her  mom made sure that her daughter  gets proper education, so here she is with a degree in nursing but no job yet .

She said she was turned down even before she could face the actual interview, she was asked to go back from the venue because she was not dressed right .  And she came to me asking for help and i knew with no job in hand and no income she can pay me my fees . I helped her to get dressed for the interview and i did not charge her anything. Then i thought there would be so many more who would need my help but for how many more i can do it for free and yes for everything we turn to FB and i did exactly that . I asked for help, help me to help others :).

The response was amazing and this was the first meeting we had for Style me !!! Empower me !!!

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Helping people radiate outwardly while in pursuit of their dreams means providing emotional support, as well as practical. Knowing what to do is half the battle; the other half is applying what you know to your daily routine.

Empowerment is our goal; therefore teaching  how to apply our techniques for themselves is critical. Learning how to take care of yourself is not always learned in one lesson, especially when self-esteem is absent. We therefore offer a place and time to reinforce and review the learning from initial session.

What do we do- we provide a place to return for additional support – whether it be fashion advice, or further counsel on personal care. We feel that by offering a program with continuity to our services, we have a much better chance of restoring a positive self-image.

Image makeover is a very planned process, so go for it if you are committed to yourself

Love

Babita Jaishankar

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